Do I or not? When to make the transition from cot to bed I hear you ask. How do you know if they are ready? Hopefully, I will be able to help you.
Firstly every child is different and you know your child best. If you don’t think there ready the chances are you’re right. A mothers gut instinct counts for alot. My eldest daughter was 18 months when we made the move. She was a climber and her cot became unsafe for her to be in, and she had a good level of understanding, she slept through the nights and when she woke up in the morning she played in her cot quietly. So it felt like the right time and it was, she was fine. My other daughter, however, is currently 23 months and nowhere near ready to make the transition.
The average age is usually anything from 18 months to 3 years. Some babies have been known to be ready much younger than 18 months. Go with the flow.
I did a mini poll on facebook today and currently as it stands most parents made the switch at 2 years, followed by 18 months with a couple of eager babies who were ready at 14 months.
Here are a few tell tale signs to look out for
-Climbing out of their cot is usually the most common sign
-Start asking about a big bed or showing negativity about their cot “baby bed”
Some parents decide to do it because a sibling is on the way and they need the cot for the baby. Make sure you do this at the earliest opportunity before baby arrives, it will be less stressful for you. Ideally, you want your toddler to be settled in their new bed before they see the new baby taking over ‘their’ cot.
So how do you go about it?
Try not to stress, toddlers pick up on stress and ultimately your plans could go to pot. Prior to bedtime, you must make sure their bedroom is completely baby proofed just in case they decide to go for a midnight stroll in their bedroom whilst you’re asleep. Once everything is safe, carry out their normal bedtime routine, don’t change any thing. Just see how it goes. Most parents will say ‘I wish I didn’t worry so much because they were absolutely fine’.
If they get out of bed, quietly without talking place them back in bed. Keep doing this until they can’t be bothered anymore and just fall asleep, some children it will take 5-10 minutes other children as I’m sure some of you will have seen on programmes like Supernanny can take hours. This is called the Stay in Bed Technique.
Go with it! If you start responding to them now you have set habits for them and it will continue and become harder to break as they get older. Set your boundaries now.
Some children may feel alone and scared, after all this is a big change for them. Some cope better than others. You may find they become afraid of the dark, shadows, and start imagining monsters under the bed… fear not have a read here if this is the case.
If your child has a level of understanding that you can work with, try reading books about getting a big bed, take them out to choose new bedding, make it a really special day for them. After all, this is a pretty huge milestone for them and you. They have grown up, and are no longer a ‘baby’ in a cot, they are a mini human in a proper bed. Embrace it.
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